Wednesday, June 15, 2022

The Flirtation Experiment

This book was recommended as part of the 2022 Anchored Women Book Club for their February read. 

I was kind of excited about this book when I first got it and even the introduction had me hopeful. But this is one was back and forth for me. I really appreciate the honesty of the two women who wrote this book. 

They shared appropriately their own struggles in their marriages and gave realistic perspective. Lisa Jacobson is a mother of eight, which also helped because I knew she wasn't going to make outlandish suggestions for mothers with many littles in the quest to flirt more with your husband. 

My struggle was the same as it usually is when reading books that tell you how to spark your relationship with your husband, no real definition of what things meant in their mind. Lisa and Phylicia gave great suggestions in their chapters and were extremely practical and down to earth. They were very much, in a kind way, telling women to get over themselves and take some chances to meet your husband on his playing field. That is clearly something that is going to be harder for some than others, but their approach was straight forward and pointed people to God as their help when this is difficult. They were also very clear that if any abuse was going on to seek help right away! 

But many of the chapters felt very much the same even though they were given different titles of ways to flirt with your husband. The suggestions were different and the idea might have been written by one in one aspect and by the other in another, but the idea, if I'm looking for a definition, was in essence the same. 

If you're not a huge romantic, you may struggle with this book like I did, or you may love the ideas to make you more "romantic" in thought, at least the way we seem to describe it in America. If you are a romantic you will probably like it a lot. 

The writing is clear and well formed, so full marks on that front. But again, a bit redundant in ideology. This is a book that would work really well if you know where your weaknesses are for a 30 day challenge. Or if you are in a rough place finding the one you need to work on the most and spending 30 days on one. I do appreciate that you can read each chapter as a stand alone and get what you need from it. The chapters do not build on themselves. Because of this, there is a LOT you can do with this book, which makes it a rare commodity, especially in the Christian Marriage world. 

They are also very much about looking to God to be able to do this. Because of that this book gets a high view in my opinion, even though I'm not keen on the way some things were presented personally. 

I would give this book 4 stars and recommend it, but I would likely ask what someone was looking for before recommending it outright. 


Reading Challenges:

2022 Anchored Women Book Club: February Read

2022 Reading Challenge with Tim Challies: A book about marriage in Obsessed Reader list

2022 Christian Reading Challenge with Jami Balmet: Marriage

2022 Intentional By Grace Reading Challenge: A book for the season your in from Level 2

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